Double Down by Antoinette M. Clarke & Tricia Clarke-Stone

Author:Antoinette M. Clarke & Tricia Clarke-Stone [Clarke, Antoinette M. & Clarke-Stone, Tricia]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: The Crown Publishing Group
Published: 2019-09-10T00:00:00+00:00

Don’t Dwell on Yesterday, Double Down on Tomorrow

To gain the confidence to take the big risks at the right time, you need to get comfortable with a degree of failure. You need to see for yourself, as we did, that you can bounce back from anything—and emerge smarter, savvier, and tougher than ever!

Yesterday’s blown deadline, yesterday’s unconvincing pitch, yesterday’s bad interview, yesterday’s fight with your mom—you gotta leave all that in yesterday. That’s the past. Today, you’re moving on and you’re moving up. Boss Ladies don’t dwell on what happened, they learn from it and go back to focus on what they’re going to make happen.

When Antoinette was producing for TV, she failed every other week! In that world, it’s just the nature of the beast: you spend a hundred hours on a show, think you’ve vetted every guest, asked every question, given the host what they need to know, timed everything out—and there are still screwups and mistakes. There’s no such thing as hitting pause and filming another take; the show is taping in front of a live studio audience! And if you’re the producer, nine times out of ten when something goes wrong on the show—when a guest doesn’t deliver by saying what you need them to say, or things that felt fresh in the script fall flat on the screen—it’ll be considered your fault, whether it actually is or not.

It’s hard—no doubt. Antoinette used to get real down on herself after a show that didn’t go well. You feel like you’re only as good as your last show, your last pitch, your last idea. Because there’s so much pressure on your last show, your last pitch, and your last idea. If it goes well, you feel like ten million dollars! If it goes poorly, you feel like you lost ten million dollars! And it’s not just the entertainment business that’s like this. In so many jobs, it’s easy to feel like you are a reflection of your work, to think that a single failure, no matter how small or insignificant, means that you are a failure. But you can’t treat every single one of your ideas or your attempts as if it were an actual extension of you. Remember: You are not the problem. You are the solution. What’s done is done. The task now is moving on. Never bring yesterday into today.

Now, let’s be realistic: everyone shuts down after a setback. That’s okay. When you don’t get a job you wanted or you lose out on an account you thought you’d landed or you flub an audition or bomb your stand-up set, you’re gonna feel lousy and blue and hangry—like you’re a fraud, a failure, like you’re never going to do anything good again. That’s normal.

But before you ride that express train all the way downtown to Self-Loathing Junction (with a connection to Let’s All Give Up Boulevard), slam on those brakes and get the F off that train! Give yourself a set window of time to shut down and feel all your feelings—and then get them out of your system.

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